Mike, Welcome to the place you wish you didn't need to be, but you're glad you found. You will find a lot of support here.
Please know this will get better with time. There are some things you can do that will help to accelerate the process of you feeling better. For me, it has been getting a life (GAL'ing). Once I really was able to get that going, I started getting excited about the direction my life was heading. Start looking for things you've always wanted to do, but have never taken the initiative. Pick up some old hobbies or start some new ones. Re-connect with some old friends. Get yourself out there. We use the term detaching around here a lot, too. I think this can be confusing at times. I'm glad LITB provided that link for you.
I am glad to hear you did get your copy of DR. Read it multiple times. You may find sections you may really want to concentrate on. You'll ntoice that list of 37 dos and don'ts will re-appear in the book, too.
Like Telemark suggested. Post often. The more you post, the more we can help. You are moderated right now, but there will be a day when the moderation will be lifted.
