I just wanted to share something with you. I was scared of my exH for a long time. he tore me down, I was scared ot speak up in fear of losing him. I knew his personality.
Now that he is gone, I have nothing to lose. So when he tries to bully me, I stand firm, and guess what. He backs down.
I lived with fear as well. My ex first mentioned divorce 3-4 years into our marriage. We stayed married for another 16 years, and I had the constant fear that he would divorce me. I lived with that insecurity and fear for 16 years. I became a shell of a person who at one point was having anxiety attacks because I was afraid I would do something wrong, and consequently I never seemed to do anything right...and was constantly told that I never did anything right. Who knew that him leaving would be such a positive in my life. I completely lost who I was when I was married, and divorce brough me back! And I speak my mind now and could not care less what he thinks! It is definitely liberating!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
