Wife no longer in love with me - Part 3

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I had my first session with a IC last night. She was nice, very comfortable, but also a bit confronting.
Basically went through my whole situation, what has brought us to this point in our M failure. I acknowledged all the things I had done wrong, how I felt it would have made my W feel and what I could have done better.
Pretty sad today, as she made me see the reality that my M will most likely never be saved and I have lost my W for good. So hard to accept this and move on, when I still miss her so much and miss her friendship and our relationship.
The C and I discussed how it was not all my fault, even though I seem to own more than my fair share. It's still hard to think if I had only done this or done that, or if this M was so important to my W then why didn't she do stuff to save it.
We discussed the flight or fight personality - W is definitely Flight!

I can keep doing the work on myself, but in reality my W and I will never come together again without some sort of miracle occuring - and they don't happen too often do they!