Being away from your kids is very tough. I felt it in my first M. I am glad you had a chance to spend some good times with them.
LITB moving closer to them will surely give you and them some added benefit and a stronger R. I am glad you and your W are being civil and I am no way trying to be the voice of negativity here, just the little voice that tells you to proceed with both eyes opened.
We teeter back and forth often with being the better person and over kindness….
What do I mean?
While I am not one to always endorsee the tough approach it is easy to get pulled in little by little by a simple act of kindness or some interest from our WAS. What could be a passing statement can turn, in our heads, into a sign that they are turning or wanting back in. When it does not happen we become heartbroken again. It is reliving the pain over and over and after a while it becomes anger and resentment.
Why do I say this
Because as you make a big decision to move and your W shows signs or civility towards you I would like for you to keep the focus of your children as your primary focus and let your W fall into the place she has requested to be………second.
Not as a punishment or out of anger but simply as a means of self-protection and to keep working on building that bond you have with your kids.
It is a fine line being kind back to her and becoming too available and you must find that on you own.
