The check was a home equity loan she took out cuz she got layed off from her job and has no money. she needed the $ right away thats why she wanted me to cash it so she didnt have to wait. i didnt want to give it to her cuz i was afraid she would lose it. she is kind of careless. for example we went running everyday and she would leave the car key on top of her car tire so she didnt have to carry it but any one could see it. there were other places she could have put it. now i feel i have no one to spend time with she has not called me since then.