....Its like we are together when he wants to be, and if I try to refuse/discourage this he says things like, I must not really want to work things out because if I did I would do the things he's referring to....
.... I feel like he doesn't want me, but he doesn't want anyone else to have me, either.....
You mentioed at the beginning of your thread your H was single till he was 40 and may be in MLC? These couple things stood out to me. What he says sounds manipulative and cake eating and perhaps a little guilt ridden. It also sounds a little overly confident that you want to save things "more" than he does. Be vary careful. Is this the kind of person you really want to be with? If so, I think you should consider some ground rules for contact, with the goal in mind of eventually getting out of limbo one way or the other. Otherwise this crap could go on indefinately.
Take care of yourself and daughter first and formost. That should be your priority, not your WAH.
(Sorry if this sounded blunt, but he reminds me so much of my XW, it almost makes me angry.)
Prayers, Pickle
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
