MLC-Separating-need hwlp with my response

[25yearsmlc]

Back,

Beatrice makes a good point about your h's resistance to your new job possibility.

True, he might not want to feel responsible for something you don't end up liking...

but he also may not like YOU changing much when he's not there. After all, he might want to come back home, and he'll want everything the exact same and then here you go...not waiting around for him..."what's all that about?"

Makes me want you to take the job just as a huge 180.

But then, as she said, it might not be the best time to decide...

or is it?

Putting your son first is never going to haunt you. It's his last year at home and B makes a great point about the reliability of the MLCer being close to nil.

Given your h's history and present behavior, I doubt he'd check out. But why worry about that? And isn't it a good thing to need your h less now?

Or is that something you worry about, what with his living well together as if you guys are fine being so independent?
while I get that concern...

am I wrong to assume you have demonstrated with tears and pleading that you want him and the marriage to work out?

And that has not worked.

So, what about you really moving forward? It doesn't mean you are giving up but it does mean he risks losing you b/c you are not going to endure limbo land forever (or that's how long he'll take)...

but what if you prepare for life without him but with you being happy...

what does that look like?

Can you create any of it now? How are the GAL things?

((( )))