Punkin - they truly are nuts. You have one of the more deranged ones though. Most have enough sense not to marry OW, for starters.

Keep cycling girl, I am older than you and have come to realise that we need to build exercise into our daily lives. Sorry but it is true.

My first, childish, instinct would be to hire a minibus and ALL show up, quite early and shout SURPRISE: we have come for the day. OK just a dream.

Keep on enjoying your life, and posting here. I find you inspirational.

PS If you haven't seen Valeria's thread, take a look. A lovely lady who I remember from way back. Her h now wants back after 6+ years!!!!!