As a P.S.: OM may have turned out to be a jerk, and I'm thinking that her days with him are numbered, but now my fear is that she'll keep on pursuing other people to fill his void (and mine). Not sure how any of it would work. My W can't afford her bills by herself, and part of OM's attraction was that he easily found a job to help support the both of them.
So maybe she wants an S because she still feels bound to him. She hates him and wants him to leave, but it sounds like there's no possible way for her to live on her income alone, so she still technically needs him in her life. I can see very easily why she said that she didn't know how to "fix" any of this.
