Do what I can but still have questions 4

[25yearsmlc]

Soccer,


yi yi yi....(SIGH)

yeah well, you know what I think you could have said, Even if just saying "of course I mind." And walking away.

But you are not fighting the divorce. If he wants the divorce, he can get it. Who's stopping him? Not you.

Be clear about that.

And be upbeat as best you can, and applaud loudly for the 1% of positives he gives you.

That's hard. Like Mother Teresa hard... but it seems to help.

Good luck, and keep working on the depression. You have children to think of.

As for his reaction to having "no fun here" I'd have acted shocked.'

"H, that's a hurtful thing to say. We had a ball and you missed out. D rode her bike for the first time. If that doesn't matter to you at all, then maybe it's best you were gone."

And leave the room. Make it clear you are NOT interested in his feedback at times like this. Let him stew on something and have no response from you that you will regret.

If he says you are "selfish to fight" the divorce, since you are not stopping him, it's an odd thing to say.

Plus, since when is it selfish to try and help your family stay together? He's clearnly not in a position to judge who or what is selfish if he sees no distinction between your response and his.

(Can't wait til his new peeps discover he's got a wife and kids at home...while he's partying. Sooo not attractive to OWs of any age or decency).

But still Soccer, his belief that being at home is miserable is telling. Not necessarily accurate, but revealing.

You must get a grip on the depression. If it permeates the home, no one wants to be in that.

I fear that around him, you are this way. Plus you had previous episodes of this depression so, you have to manage it more.

You have children...so don't you want to anyhow?

Good luck