25Years asked me some questions that I have been pondering about.
One of them was what I thought was the reason for H's return. I said that I thought it was health reasons and facing his mortality with unfinished business. That's true but - after thinking about it some more - I also think that it was a little more involved.
With the economy affecting everyone, H could not find work in the state where we live. He had to relocate (temporarily) to a different part of the country. This is actually the first time since 2005 that H has been on his own (without OW). The job also required sobriety so he couldn't drink anyway.
OW was a heavy drinker so she contributed to his dependency on alcohol.
I think it was time away on his own with a clear (sober) mind to see the situation as it really is. He had time to think and he did. So, in a nutshell, it was the fact that he was forced to quit drinking and OW wasn't around to influence him that he finally woke up. His health issues were, of course, also a big factor.
