That doesn't make sense. You "suspected" that the money was stolen but you didn't have any proof. Why did you call the cops if you didn't have proof? Plus, if it was such a large amount, why weren't you carrying it?
By the calling the cops, did you ever think about how that would ruin your relationship with your nephew and your sister? Did you even realize how accusatory you were towards him and his girlfriends, just like how you are with your H. It's the same way you've been treating the guys you went out with. Your motto seems to be everyone is nice to your face, but evil inside.
Have you been getting help? I seriously think you're letting your paranoia affect other parts of your life and you really don't seem to understand that. Do you really want to isolate yourself and distrust everyone in your life? You've even taken that same tone with your son.
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h did buy a used bentley, 80,000 its in his driveway. i think i have to go to lawyer next wk. h told me today he has no $ for health ins or mortgage, says hes waiting for a check for work he did from state.
so, did you go see a L? What are you waiting for?? Any assets left now?
I'm not clear about the theft. You were carrying that much cash with you and then you put it somewhere Not on you? So odd.
I cannot imagine having to cash someone else's check at all, let alone not keeping that money in my paws til I then placed it into hers...
I don't mean to rag on you about this but I think you're depressed b/c you kind of screwed up.
Who else had access to it? Where'd you put it? Were there housekeepers in the hotel? Did they get interviewed? Had it occurred to you that your family might think you took it?
Do you have personal liability insurance through your homeowner's? I had a ring stolen or lost, that was actually covered by my homeowner's insurance.
For future reference you can get a cashier's check or money order with a name on it and not have that much cash. But for now, you still need a lawyer.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I agree there is something fishy about the whole cash thing, but either it vanished or someone took it, or rysmom forgot to take it with her. But, I am naturally suspicious, I grew up in a cop family, and am M to one. Good idea 25yrs for her to check her homeowner's insurance. Rysmom, I went back and read some of your old posts, and you were saying then that you needed to protect yourself financially. If he is spending like crazy, you need to protect yourself. Have you spoken with a L to at least see what rights you have in your state? vc
I think it totally smells like a scam, I don't know what your sister's story is, but is it possible she planned this all to scam you out of the money? How come she couldn't cash her own check? Or go with you to your bank to deposit it?
I agree, you need a lawyer ASAP, nothing smells right around your financial stuff and I am afraid if you are this gullible, your ex may be stealing you blind too.
I think it totally smells like a scam, I don't know what your sister's story is, but is it possible she planned this all to scam you out of the money? How come she couldn't cash her own check? Or go with you to your bank to deposit it?
I agree, you need a lawyer ASAP, nothing smells right around your financial stuff and I am afraid if you are this gullible, your ex may be stealing you blind too.
Rysmom you said the Lawyer(S) you have spoken to "all say" that the only way you can protect yourself is by filing...
He's living with OW but b/c he asked you to watch the dog...so you thought OW was gone and therefore?? What? I'd think he was with OW...
Sorry Rysmom, but can you think objectively now
and see how you are grasping at straws about your xh, and staying stuck AND getting victimized repeatedly?
You are risking so much by not filing. And there's no way that filing would make your h blame you for the end of the m!
Good grief, he might actually think you have a backbone...I cannot see how it could hurt. You have virtually no direct contact with him anyhow...
What do you realistically have to lose by filing, that you would not have lost anyhow?
And you might be saving your retirement...what if by delaying, you end up on welfare and working 2 jobs to pay for a small apartment? I can envision that happening easily....
At this point, I feel this is self inflicted damage you are volunteering for. But I sure don't know why.
I don't care if your xh gives you veggies from a garden or sends you an AC filter...I mean, so what that he's not spewing venom... so what?
he lives with OW and overtly involves your son with them like they are the family and you are the outsider...
And again, and now for some time, he has been spending too much and saying he doesn't have enough for necessities. That gravy train is about out of gravy Rysmom...protect yourself.
You've been warned more than once, by him...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
my sister is the one that said to call the cops in case someone found it a nd turned it in.. you always think i am paranoid and do the wrong thing. you never give me the benefit of the doubt.
my sister would never set me up like that. i dont trust my nephew and his 2 girlfriends though. i have let this situation go though. its in the past and i learned a lesson from it. there is nothing i can do about it now, so i have to let it go.
i put the dolllars in the car under seat during the day, but brought it in at night. i put it in the car during the day cuz i didnt want to take it to the beach with me. and i was worried about other valuables we had with us too. my son had his lap top and expensive camera with him so i had to transport this stuff back and for from car to room everyday too. on sat. i saw nephew and the 2 girls on beach and they were acting unusually happy. it was crowded and they didnt know we were there watching. my sister went over after to tell them to come and sit with us but they didnt want to, and they left beach kind of early which was unusual . that makes me wonder why too. maybe they felt guilty, and didnt want to face me. it was managers idea at office to have detective go to girls hotel room one town away to question them. so i called police and the detective went and questioned them separately. but they might have been ready for it because my sister had to ask nephew the name of hotel they were staying at so nephew knew det. was going there and he could have text them and told them and they could have planned their story. they said they never went in hotel room they stayed at pool when nephew took a shower. i think it was wrong that my sister would even let her son go back to a hotel room with 2 girls to begin with. i would never allow my son to do that. my sister never had much common sense, thats why her older son is really screwed up.
Maybe I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer, but a few things don't add up to me .....
If your sister was in such a hurry for you to cash a check that she wanted you to bring the money to the beach - why were YOU holding the money? Why didn't you give her the cash as soom as you got there, take the check, and deposit it right away so you were covered?
You also never mention who the check was from and why she couldn't cash it herself.
And how is your sister going to cash the check now? And does she feel sowmewhat responsible for your loss and willing to share the pain with you?
Maybe I'm just missing something ....................
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
The check was a home equity loan she took out cuz she got layed off from her job and has no money. she needed the $ right away thats why she wanted me to cash it so she didnt have to wait. i didnt want to give it to her cuz i was afraid she would lose it. she is kind of careless. for example we went running everyday and she would leave the car key on top of her car tire so she didnt have to carry it but any one could see it. there were other places she could have put it. now i feel i have no one to spend time with she has not called me since then.
