I figured it was rhetorical. Just thinking out loud on you thread I think.
As to why my H and I could not work things out, it comes down to his indifference to me. I can work with anger, fear, he11 any emotion, but when there's no emotion at all, there's nothing. And I have been unsuccessful in my attempts to inspire any.
It got to the point where he wouldn't even talk about D's with me. He might join in a convo with us, but even given some of D16's serious struggles, he was not open to discuss it.
I have always wondered if he was a WAS vs MLC. Perhaps he was and I was just slow on the uptake.
