Very k00l on the GAL! Personally, I am planning on taking up SCUBA and maybe jumping out of a perfectly good, flying airplane... and maybe I'll take up sax lessons again or maybe some artsy, fartsy classes...
There's also an online group called Meetup that you might look into for special interest groups that might be meeting in your area... that will cover a lot of ground for the mystery and 180s of no longer smothering her...
Is your W still playing the "blame game" on you? Four years of negligible effort sounds like she's still "stuck" and continues to want to have no responsibility for her happiness and her problems...
What is it about the finances did she complain about? That there wasn't enough household income, or that you controlled the money, or...? Do you two have separate accounts?
