Wife wants a divorce,but I do not.

[HHIF]

Her complaints would be that I smothered her and she would complain about our finances and that she feels pressured by me.

My 180 is to back off completely,do not ask her where she is going or where she has been,do not try to convince her that what she is doing is wrong and she should put forth effort to work on our marriage.And you are right about her saying that she has put in effort but her heart hasn't changed.her effort consist of us going to one weekend marriage conference when this first started and she just went through the motions so she could say she tried, she thinks that her going to a therapist by herself is some how working on our marriage,the therapist is the one that told her that she needed to find herself.

GAL-I am now going to a men's group at church and I work with the teens on Wednesday night at church,I have started surfing again,and I plan on being out more often at night.