your d is running too much of this. She has to own her own life and I'm not convinced it's all about you and h.
She has other issues at school, right? I mean what kid at that age wants to move?
It can't just be you guys & the turmoil, but that is easier for her to deal with than her own issues.
Plus, assuming she doesn't do any more negative acting out, she can and will recover herself when YOU recover yourself.
She's watching you. So model for her what GAL and 180s are.
Teach her that we are all in charge of our own happiness and no other person can deeply affect it for long. Model that.
How is your GAL anyhow?
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