Your H is obviously confused. My early sitch was so much like yours - my H dropped the bomb, told me he wanted to be free, then later I did find that he was pursuing OW. Exactly the same kind of emails - no ILY's or anything sexual, but obviously with a lot of affection.
He also did the same thing about MC. But just like they said here, I felt that he was only using MC as an excuse to say that he tried, so I actually decided not to pursue it and went instead to my own therapy which at least was covered by insurnace, and if anything, helped me vent. And the same thing about breaking up with OW - he did it openly, tell her that no more ocntact, etc. but what happened with us is that he became so depressed, missed OW terribly and then OW was the one wo initiated contact and they went "underground".
Good for you you found this site early, I did not know about DBing until 4 mos. post bomb and so blundered my way through those first 4 mos.
Somehow we are still together, but a lot of damage has been done.
Just wondering, how old is your D?
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
