WAW in Los Angeles

[wawinla]

InShock...thanks for the kind words. This site is/can be "bittersweet".

After my visit with my WAW yesterday, my friends are telling me it's time to get an attorney now and respond to her. They point out that she's getting whatever she wants and that she's playing on my emotions. In my best interest, it's time to let go and accept that the M is over and now it's a business transaction where I need protection.

I've been wrestling with this fact since my WAW dropped the bomb. How can I DB and hope for R when I'm engaged in the D proceedings?

When chatting with her yesterday, her anger/bitterness is visceral. I can hear and see her pain. Frustratingly the situation is seen only from her perspective, as everything is my fault or something I've done wrong. She made comments like, "It's great that you're changing, too late for me, you've left a lot of scorched earth" and "You've always been about yourself and not me". I wanted to defend myself, but kept quiet. As so many sage folks here have mentioned, WAS focus on the negatives and are enabled by their friends, didn't want to reinforce or get sucked into that vacuum. She mentioned all her friends have told her to "dump him"/"why are you being nice to him" and that she was the only person defending me?!?

Sigh...all very sad and frustrating. I haven't wanted to constantly vent here, but having trouble managing these emotions.