Before she left for Labor Day weekend, she took down all the marriage photos and any photos of just us from the house (while I was gone at work). I haven't said anything about it.
She's also changed her FB to hide that she's married, though she's not going to change the status yet because she "doesn't want the questions". I did ask her about this one, and she pretty much just shrugged.
She's also apparently changed her gmail account to have her maiden name. I just saw this one, and I'm not going to say anything.
I'm fairly certain that she knows I know about these things. Though I do check on her FB page every now and then, I never comment online or in person about what I see there. Either she's just really moving on, or trying to get a rise out of me, I'm not going to respond. As far as I can tell, she's just half-assing it, since she's not actually saying anything publicly, but is changing some of her naming items. I see no reason to do all these things unless she's just trying to make herself feel better, "trying it out" or some such.
Either way, like I said, I'm not going to respond to this.
She came back today after 5 days gone, we had a nice time with the kids. I did a lot of "act as if" mingled with some of the 180 tactics of not initiating, lingering, being clingy or affectionate. I was nice, she was nice, it was good. When the kids went to bed, we had no discussion of what each other was doing for the rest of the night, though she did chat a bit about some mundane things. After that, she asked me about setting up time to transfer finances. I responded cheerfully with a date and time, and didn't make a big deal out of it. Then we each left and did our own thing.
Right now, she is seems relieved that I'm not being contentious regarding taking steps toward divorce. Given what some of you have said, I am happy with that result, while thinking (hoping) that at some point down the line it turns into consideration that maybe we could work things out after all.
I'm determined to take the high road, and be at peace with doing it. I will not allow my buttons to be pushed, and I will be proactive and not reactive. I'm in for the long haul, and thank you all (and DB) for continuing to help me develop my strategy.
