You are one of my inspirations. i read through your whole sitch and i can only hope to be the person you have been through all of this. I know you have inspired many of us out here in this particular hell.
((((((jbnati))))))) internalize that huge hug
Wow! I am ALWAYS impressed when someone actually reads through all my threads. Thanks for that note, it adds fuel to my tank. I am glad I can be an inspiration to people. Thanks especially for that big hug! (((())))))
When I get a chance, I'll visit your thread and see what's going on.
I'm glad to know you made it through your anniversary okay. That was a toughie for me too. It's amazing how positive things and people in our lives (at the top of the list, your son) can help carry us through the tough times without even knowing it. You truly are the #1 GAL'er of all time! Tonight's plans of just taking it easy with your son sound like great ones to me; I just wonder if you are able to sit still that long! You are the busiest person I know!
Thanks as always lc4. ((()))) I was able to sit still through a movie. Sometimes I think I keep myself too busy to get enough sleep.
Originally Posted By: lc4
You truly inspire a lot of people on these boards. I hope your wife wakes up and realizes what she's giving up before it's too late.
Thanks for that. Always energizes me to hear that. The clock is ticking, tic-toc, tic-toc, LOL Seriously, if we can get through this, my W re-commits to the M, and we never go through this again, it'll ALL be worth it. I am trying my best to make it ALL worth regardless of the outcome.
Through GAL'ing, I have gotten to do a lot of new things. I have grown as a person. I've made new friends. I feel like I'm finding myself. This is the lemonade I've been able to make out of the lemons I've been served.
^^^ Great look on things. Glad your anniversary was bearable!
Thanks for the feedback, Val! I'm in a hugging mood tonight, so ((()))
IF by chance it was your wife in the minivan and IF she saw you and IF she mentions to you that you she saw you, asks you why you were "following her" (as she would only see things that way, having a guilty conscience and all), etc., then simply tell her the truth.... You saw her car when coming back from dinner, was concerned something was wrong because the store was closed, the parking lot was pretty much empty, it was raining and you wanted to make sure if it WAS her car she wasn't stranded or needed help of some sort. She can take that for what it's worth, but in my opinion after getting to know you through the boards and from what you wrote that happened, that is the truth!
I assume your son is going to say something about seeing her car in the lot. It will be interesting to see how she reacts to that.
If she is at the point of rendezvous'ing in the Lowe's parking lot in a minivan then she has sunk to a pretty low level...I'd say darn close to rock bottom. Glad you remain upbeat and positive while also realistic of what it could have been. Keep focusing on you, your son, your awesome life. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best. The best is what you deserve.
JB, I am hijacking your thread for this post, hope you don’t mind. I suspect from your posts you are somewhere near the SW corner of the state. Since you like road trips I thought I’d suggest a couple of places to take your S. I’ll leave the Rock Hall, GL Science Center, William H Mathers, USS Cod, and Cedar Point off the list…guess I did not.
Closer to you and something I found fascinating as a child is the Air Force museum at Wright Patterson AFB. Two major things going for it as a destination in the next few months, it is 99.98% enclosed so weather is not a factor, it is free. You can choose to pay for an audio tour with headsets if you like. For my family it was a long day trip. We camped nearby to spend the day.
For good weather and outdoors there are the Indian mounds nearby, Serpent is the most famous it burns an hour or so on the way to something else. Off 71 is Fort Ancient, it is a defensive works atop a hill. The hike up and around burns a couple of hours, it might be a little strenuous for a little guy. The Hopewell settlement near Chillicothe makes an interesting stop. Near Lake Hope SP in Zalenski forest are a couple of partially restored open hearth furnaces from when the area produced iron for cannon.
South if you like air shows and fireworks is Thunder over Louisville in mid April. I have never been disappointed by the fireworks display, even when it was cold wet and raining. South further is Mammoth Caves SP worth a couple days of exploring, book tours in advance. Not to far from there is the bourbon trail b/c it is all Karst country. Not exactly little guy material though.
Just some different thoughts for future reference, sometimes we get wrapped up with the drama and we forget to plan futures. Not too long ago both of my adult children reminded me the times they got the most from our relationship growing up were the quiet simple moments when a life lesson was shared, sometimes unintentionally.
Oh and my cousin recently returned from a mission to Belize. He said it was a life altering experience, never having seen that level of poverty up close and personal.
:end hijack
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
IF by chance it was your wife in the minivan and IF she saw you and IF she mentions to you that you she saw you, asks you why you were "following her" (as she would only see things that way, having a guilty conscience and all), etc., then simply tell her the truth.... You saw her car when coming back from dinner, was concerned something was wrong because the store was closed, the parking lot was pretty much empty, it was raining and you wanted to make sure if it WAS her car she wasn't stranded or needed help of some sort. She can take that for what it's worth, but in my opinion after getting to know you through the boards and from what you wrote that happened, that is the truth!
Thanks for that as usual, lc4. There ARE a lot of IFS there. It could be the two vehicles were not linked at all. Not that it's impossible. My W's car was kind of isolated the the van was at least three rows over and in the main part of the parking lot. There were still several cars in the lot in that part of the parking lot. I may have very well let my irrational paranoia get the best of me. But you're right, I can just lean on the truth. TBH, it was part curiosity, part concern. I really didn't that would be her car. When she left the house, she said she was going to help out her a female friend (I've met her) that was going through a rough time. So she may have just met up there and ditched the car, and that's all it was.
Originally Posted By: lc4
I assume your son is going to say something about seeing her car in the lot. It will be interesting to see how she reacts to that.
Yes, if she was doing something other than ditching the car for a few hours, it will.
Originally Posted By: lc4
If she is at the point of rendezvous'ing in the Lowe's parking lot in a minivan then she has sunk to a pretty low level...I'd say darn close to rock bottom. Glad you remain upbeat and positive while also realistic of what it could have been. Keep focusing on you, your son, your awesome life. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best. The best is what you deserve.
You are right. Thanks so much, lc4, You are truly fantastic.
JS, I don't consider it a hijack at all. Thanks for the tips! I would consider some of those places fairly local. Some of them are very doable, too. I'm always open to more and more GAL activities with my S!
I've been feeling melancholy today. I found myself missing my W. Most of the times when I miss my W, it's the version of her before we had my S. Now, I would not trade my S for anything, but my W seemed to start changing into a different person after we had my S. What's odd, is I am starting to see a lot of those qualities I liked about my W in my S now. I really know the version of my W I love is still there somewhere.
Anyway, the weather was overcast all day today, and I think it was really getting to me. That kind of weather seems to affect me more than rain. It was chilly and windy. The car said it was 102 on Saturday and today we were in the 60s all day. My S and I went up to my Mom's today. On the way back, I shed more tears than I have for awhile. I heard John Waller's song, "While I'm Waiting" on the radio on the way back home and it really hit me pretty hard. If you're familiar with the song, I feel like I am living that song...again. I felt like I lived it after bomb #1, too.
I did GAL today, but I just couldn't shake it off. I biked 26 mi. earlier in the day. I went with my Mom and S and we played miniature golf and went out for pizza.
I'm so very sorry you had a tough day yesterday. Even with all the great things you are doing and the family and friends you are spending time with, you are bound to hit some rough patches here and there. I hope you rested well last night and that today is a better one for you.
I'm sure you've covered this in an earlier thread, so forgive me for asking you to repeat yourself...but what happened after Bomb #1 that lead to your reconciliation with your wife?
Hang in there, sweet friend. Hugs, hugs, hugs...lc4
You are the busiest person I know!
Seriously, if we can get through this, my W re-commits to the M, and we never go through this again, it'll ALL be worth it. I am trying my best to make it ALL worth regardless of the outcome.
But you're right, I can just lean on the truth. TBH, it was part curiosity, part concern. I really didn't that would be her car. When she left the house, she said she was going to help out her a female friend (I've met her) that was going through a rough time. So she may have just met up there and ditched the car, and that's all it was.
I found myself missing my W. Most of the times when I miss my W, it's the version of her before we had my S. Now, I would not trade my S for anything, but my W seemed to start changing into a different person after we had my S. What's odd, is I am starting to see a lot of those qualities I liked about my W in my S now. I really know the version of my W I love is still there somewhere.