I started DBing when we lived in separate places for 6 months,doing 180 and working on getting a life outside of my life with her and it seemed to be working,she would call and ask me over for dinner etc.

Since we have been back under the same roof I know I have backslid some,saying I still love you buying flowers etc.It's hard for me to not pursue her when I see her every day but I know that by doing that I have just pushed her further away.

I was jealous and controlling and and she always kept things inside until one day she had enough and walked out the door.

We are both Christians and it's hard for me to not say I love you even though she never says it back.

I am kind of lost as this point as to what I should or shouldn't do.Is letting go and acting like I do not care what happens what I am supposed to do.

I have DR so I will get it back out and start re-reading.


Married 28 yrs
Seperated 6 mths
Rec D Papers 11/24
W Canceled D
Moved Back Home 3/1/08
2 Kids D23 and S16
Trying 2 Put R Back Together