Beatrice, my H's crisis began a little over 4 years ago, and he has been gone almost 3 years. My gut says that OW is no more -- he has been obvious about being in town most weekends for the last few months -- but I suspect he is at least dating.
I do not believe my H has even seen the damage yet, let alone faced it. His choices have affected my life in many more ways than just leaving me without a partner. Some are good, some not so good, but I do not believe he sees past just the leaving part. Perhaps he doesn't want to. And yes, I think that pride may make it very difficult for him to accept the fact that when he made his choices, he also chose certain things for those who knew and loved him best, things that they may not have chosen for themselves.
Grace, my question was mostly rhetorical, borne of too much musing on a very quiet holiday weekend. i don't know that even H knows the answer, and it wouldn't change anything anyway. Are you willing to share the reason you and your H could not work things out between you?
Thanks for your continuing spport, ladies. i really am doing fine, and am grateful everyday for the positives in my situation. Getting back to work tomorrow should keep my mind more productively occupied LOL!
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Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
