Wife wants a divorce,but I do not.

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We have been married 28 years,living the last 4 under the same roof but not as husband and wife,sleep in separate rooms and have no physical contact,just basically raise the kids and split the bills.

We separated 4 years ago and she filed for D but later stopped it and we moved back in together,her reasons for kids and finances only.

Now she is tired of living this way as am I and wants to move forward with the D.

I do not want the D and continue to pray that her hardened heart will be made tender and loving again.

She wants us to go to mediation instead of spending more money on lawyers.

We have done nothing to try to reconcile because she has shut down towards me and is very stubborn,I told her if she will attend Retrouvaille with me and nothing changes about how she feels that I would agree to mediation.

It's just hard to understand how this woman that I have been with for more than 30 years can be so cold toward me.

There is no evidence that she is involved with anyone else,she goes to work and comes home makes dinner and then goes to her room,no going out or unexplained times away.She just says that we grew apart and she is not in love with me any more and wants to move on with her life.