Trying not to hope is hard

[25yearsmlc]

Is it possible she doesn't want to be the sole bread winner anymore BUT doesn't want to tell you that?

Some women won't admit feeling this way b/c it makes them sound unloving or materialistic.

I just think it's an unusual couple that can make having a stay at home dad work, in the long term. I have seen it but it's rare. You need a truly secure sensitive man who doesn't negate his wife's mothering or take swipes at her b/c of his own insecurities

and SHE has to really be okay with his staying at home and not being "a good provider" and whatever she has to hear at work about it.

Also-- your answers to my questions are pretty much that you "Already changed all the things I know to change..." oh, okay...so what's to ask?

Like it's useless/ hopeless or you are missing a secret answer.

The "math of this" is key

consistent changes + sufficient time = changes she can trust.


If you are positive you are not missing something and that you truly have made ALL the changes needed

then it IS simple. Do the math.

You just keep doing it, don't backslide and be the best silver you can be, leaving the results up to God.

(But I'm not convinced you are fully aware of all her true concerns. They do not have to be verbally expressed to be present. Dig deep.)

and fwiw, Divorce Remedy is more helpful imo, b/c it's the 2nd edition and speaks less about why divorce is bad (which we already know) and more about

how to avoid it. Good luck.