Trusting, the road home, should they choose to take it, is a long one for the MLCer. He sounds, from other posting over the last few months, as if he is on a roller coaster still and subject to mood changes. Was he always like this or is it MLC behaviour?
Reconnection seems to me as if it is almost always very very slow. [Snodderly says a year, but i suspect often much longer] It involves the MLCer realising he or she has made some terrible choices! And we all resist those sorts of insights, MLCers more than most.
It sounds as if you still love the guy, and are keeping the road home open.
i have come to believe that they almost always think they can come back when they are in deep MLC. No idea why, but it seems as if they do. It is only when the fog starts to really lift that they see how this might not be easy or possible. And if it is possible, it is going to take effort.
Some get stuck and others are impelled out by what is happening to them, just as they were sucked in. All in all although we know much of the WHYs in psychological terms, the individual behaviours continue to baffle!
