Twink you have posted to me with kindness and wisdom on occasions. As you know MLC is a peculiar thing, and although there are great similarities, there are great variations.
Your H does still care about you, but MLC is also characterised by great confusion and unhappiness on their part. I do not know how long you have been dealing with this, and whether there is [still] an OW
My xh now seems much more at peace with himself, and phoned me recently to discuss our middle son. A huge step forward We talked for a couple of hours - I hadn't spoken to him in well over a year, except briefly in court when our divorce was finalised. I know it will take him a while to process all of this.
I think he is gradually trying to reconnect with his family, and looking at the damage, but it is very very painful for him. I am not sure he even knows he is trying to do it.
If your husband is like this, admitting he might have got it wrong is tough. They are much more fragile than we are - if they weren't they would not have had a MLC. And while they have been in lalaland, we have been working on ourselves.
Reread Holly's threads - her h and she interacted for a very long time, with retreats from him, but I gather they are gradually working back together again. The road back, if they choose to start on it, isn't easy, however smooth and paved we try to make it. What are pebbles to us look like boulders to them, I believe.
