Julz - I'm wondering if you've thought about going "dim"?
It's really saved me, emotionally, and allowed me to detach. Not that I don't have bad moments/hours/days, but I feel so much better now.
I think I am pretty much as dim as I can be. I don't contact him at all. He will email me to ask about pick up times for the kids, and that's it. Then when he picks them up it's usually brief and quick. Other then the time last fortnight when he hooked up the tv for me, and when he was packing his stuff and I was friendly to him.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
