I went out and I did have a good time. I made a new friend - she lives a few blocks away - but she has the same name as the OW!!!!! Whyyyyyy. She's really nice so I don't want to let this get to me.
Father's day today in Australia. My husband lives in the next town now - as do all of my family and his. I'm going to my sister's for lunch so sent him a text this morning to say that I'd be in town and I'd pick the kids up. I also said Happy Father's Day. He wrote back and said thanks for the presents. Blubbering mess now I am.
I hate weekends! But I have plans to go bowling with the people I met last night in a few weeks!
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
Ooh, that's hard. One of my friends has a daughter with the same name as OW - is there a nickname your friend goes by? Would be willing to go by if you explained?
I agree that weekends are hard! During the week, I'm busy with work, but on the weekends I spend all Saturday without S7.
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
So kids are home from their weekend with dad. We're not even home and they tell me OW and her D are moving in in a fortnight. Trying not to care and doing a good job of it. I am really starting to accept that what we had, what we planned for our future is gone. He's off doing his thing and doesn't give a F about me and his kids.
I just hate that my kids now grow up with a weekend dad. He's raising someone elses kid - he gets to tuck someone else's kid into bed at night, and make someone elses kid breakfast - my children - his children miss out on this. I'm determined to be the best mum in the world to them, but at times they need a dad. They both adore their father and it's so not fair on them.
They also spent the dad - Father's day with her dad! WE always spent the day as a family, or sometimes at his parents - he didn't like my parents so we never ever spent the day with my family.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
Well he actually had the decency to email me today (said he was going to tell me yesterday but didn't get the chance) to tell me she's moving in - save me hearing it from someone else.
The whole debacle he's never once been able to tell me to my face what is happening. It's all been emails. Man he couldn't even tell me to my face he was leaving.
I'm putting on a brave face but it's hard - 14 years together and it's all over - he never gave us a chance. 14 weeks ago yesterday he walked out on me and now he's living with someone else. My heart is broken and will be for a long time.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
Julz - I know nothing I can say will make you feel better, but it's important to note that relationships that start in affairs rarely last. Once the "day to day" settles in, he may very well find himself longing for what he threw away.
((hugs))
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
I know. I just can't imagine how life working together all day, living together etc. They will basically be spending 24 hours a day together (they sit next to each other at work - about a metre away or less and work in the same department - they are basically their department - one other person being the team leader who sits away in his own office).
I still think he's having some sort of MLC. God knows where we will be in a few years.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
I'm really sorry, Julz. But honestly, what kind of woman moves in with a married man who just left his wife and children to be with her?
I can't see this relationship lasting and even if it does, I bet someday she will be wondering if he will do it to her the minute the relationship honeymoon period is over. Because we all know it will be at some point.
I'm really sorry, Julz. But honestly, what kind of woman moves in with a married man who just left his wife and children to be with her?
I can't see this relationship lasting and even if it does, I bet someday she will be wondering if he will do it to her the minute the relationship honeymoon period is over. Because we all know it will be at some point.
They're the ones that lose, not you.
I know - sometime down the track he'll probably get bored with her. Doesn't help that I still love him like crazy and even after all this crap I'd take him back. We were a happy family - until the day he walked out he never once did anything wrong by me. I can't even find anything to hate about him to make the pain less. I just want to get out and start dating - he is so why can't I? Why do I have to wait till I'm allowed to divorce him (which I don't want to do) - he'll never divorce me unless she wants to marry him.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
Of course you still love him like crazy, you never saw this coming. But you are only responsible for your half of the M. He's responsible for his half.
All we can all do is work on ourselves and hope they give us another chance when they start missing what they had. Because I think he will miss what he had, Julz. How could he not? You have children together. He's in the affair fog right now but soon enough, he's going to have to face reality.
My H is acting like a wingnut and I still love him too despite what he's put me through so I definitely understand why you still want him back.
I doubt this new R of his will last.
And you may think you're ready to date, but are you really ready?
