Do NOT move in or think you are in "Piecing" until 1) she wants to be together again and 2) you do too and 3) you are living together, and; finally 4) whatever I'm forgetting to put here.
Then real piecing work starts. All the things about forgiving and rebuilding trust that you have put aside b/c you were not in a position to argue about them, or were not even aware of yet,
will surface.
Take it slow, slower than feels natural. Seriously.
AND see if she'll attend Retrovaille which is a workshop for married couples in crisis, which you are.
No sharing of dirty laundry or public disclosure is required. You don't have to be Catholic to go though they started it (which makes sense since they make it tough for us to divorce).
Check it out. It's helped many and the rate of success is good,--of the 25 couples we attended with, 3 years later 80% were still married.
Considering why we were there, that's amazing.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
