Point well taken KD. Point well taken. I need to stop reassuring her that I will always be here. She knows how I feel.
THIS ^^^ IS TRUTH...pay attention to it.
But if there is some mystery, she may start to question about the grass, etc..... Got it. Like everything else, I gotta apply it.
YES YES YES...understand and implement...
(consistent changes + time = her believing it's true & trusting the changes)
Don't make it obvious you are waiting forever b/c that may be how long she takes...
you have to let her believe that she is risking something by doing this...and isn't she?
If not, what's the downside for her?
NOT saying for you to be punitive or lie
...just get and keep some mystery about the new you. Don't volunteer info or keep telling her you'd never be with OW. Truth is, you probably WILL someday if she leaves for good...seriously, are you going to be alone and celibate the rest of your life otherwise?? NO you are not, don't even go there.
If you look as if you are preparing for being "out there" again then trust me, that will bother her. She will notice and it will NOT sit well even if she says "go ahead and date OWs" as some wives here have told their h's.
If a real OW found and loved their h's I believe close to 100% of those same women would turn around and protect "their turf"...
I just feel strongly that it's a rare woman who is truly indifferent to the spouse.
So Read those rules again. Remember, you have had an "awakening" --you now realize--
you will be fine no matter what SHE does
she does not determine YOUR Happiness, you & only you do-
got it? Yeah I know it's sort of high schoolish...(welcome to the DB world)
Okay so I gotta GAL myself now.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
