Thank you mishka, I am trying to move on but I'm going to try to keep things on friendly terms as well. Today just as I was getting ready to go to church and proceed to find a way to be away from home most of the time my youngest pops in and asks if I want to go to the fair with her and daddy. I told her I would talk to her dad about it first. I called and asked if he was fine with it and he said he was. So I thanked him and said fine. Also he said that they would wait until I got back from church even. If he had told me a time before that I would have declined. Unless I'm away from home or ill or one of my girls is ill than I don't miss church. Its like my workouts,I still feel new to it so I don't want to take a chance of getting out of the habit. I even went to church on my vaca. Found one in my dad's neighborhood and crashed a service. It ended up being on the same day as thieir annual church picnic so I ended up there to. I met some super nice people and sent them a thank you note when I got home. Anyway back to the fair. We had a good time. I made a point to pay for all my stuff though I have a feeling if I hadn't been so obvious about it he would have not that I want to test that theory. We got home I thanked him for inviting me, gave my D a kiss and walked home. He even seemed to enjoy himself and relaxed a little. I at least think it is good for our D to see us be friendly and not act like we hate each other. Maybe it is cake eating on his part but whatever. He's had years of me being a bitch to him and I just don't feel like doing it anymore.