You could have simply indicated that you are trying something different and like it... and if it produces any "results", then who knows... (and followed that with a chuckle)...
For nothing else, that would have left her wondering, and might have led to her saying something that might have given you an opportunity to find out what she's thinking...
You can look at it as a lost opportunity to gather more intel, but in the same token, you can try mystery the next time something comes up...
And yes... my W told me that I should see if the grass is greener on the other side, and I vehemently told her that I know the grass isn't greener on the other side...
That was about eight months ago... and she's continued down her path of destruction, regardless... so while I feared she might really be happy if I was looking elsewhere, it didn't matter if I wasn't...
make sense?
Mystery is a good thing... it doesn't have to be about an OP... it is an opportunity to GAL and the side effect is your W might become curious about you... start moving towards you...
