I got an email from my W on Thursday indicating she had in fact seen her L...
From what she indicated, her L will be drawing up the paperwork and it should all be done by the end of the month...
There's a few interesting things about this:
+ they are legal separation docs + they will be witnessed by a public notary
I expect my W's L advised as I assumed she might be...
There is technically no such thing as "legal separation" in our jurisdiction. I won't know exactly the content of the doc until I get them for review (and will pass them by my L). The only thing this doc would do is remove ourselves from further legal liability of the actions of the other, from the time of signing. So for all intents and purposes, our M continues along as though we entered the M with a pre-nup...
The more interesting stuff is, technically... we can file for divorce on Nov. 5... by the time these docs are created and signed, we would be only one month away from D... why bother...?
My W (spewing venom) complained in the email that she had to shell out some pretty good coin to get these docs done... something she previously said was pointless... that she had apparently been advised against doing, 6 months ago (by people other than her L)... the amount she had to pay is at least 4X more than she thought it would cost, to do the D on our own... again... why bother...? When we can D in two months...
I expect my W was advised by her L about the whole child support and custody thing... as I've researched and based on precedence... a judge would likely rule 50/50 and I would have to pay child... and a judge would probably give me at least some spousal... which would balance itself out, of course...
and that's the thing, although I understand my W may not be thinking clearly at this time...
If she's not lying about the financials... lol... then the only thing she'd loose is her 80/20... child and spousal would balance out...
Yet she was so bound and determined to D and was completely against leg S and associated costs... and she wanted to change her name, thinking there'd be no cost, and maybe she'd have the option with a D... but for sure she'll have to pay for name change now... oh... and a friend of mine had to get "permission" from her ex when she D'd her spouse only six months ago... but I've told my W that I would certainly agree to her getting her name changed...
Anyhow, just some thoughts...
None of the above says anything really, except that my W is still... all over the place... not making any sense... saying one thing and doing another... and then spewing venom at me because again, this is all my fault, because she had to spend big money to get this doc done...
