first, sorry you find yourself here, but this forum is a great place to get support as you begin your own journey through this...
next, all sub forums are generally slow and most activity happens in the "Newcomers" forum, so it might be a good idea to repost your sitch there, as your support and help will likely be more active...
not only that, but while it might seem like this sub forum is to discuss WASs... it is actually geared towards working with people who are contemplating leaving their spouse, not the other way around...
and lastly, just be sure that you have picked up a copy of Divorce Remedy and read through it... it's a fantastic resource and has a lot of information to help you work through this, on your own.
Be strong and become the man only a fool would leave...