Understandable MM. I had the same problem. I tried to let go but just couldn't entirely. He was around too much, I kept avoiding him like the plague but he'd pop up at odd times when my guard was down. Of course, all of that eventually led to where I am now which is UBER-confusing.
The best thing you can do for yourself and your family is to step forward in your life on faith. Be a godly, loving woman, be involved in your community and find ways to be ok with being alone in the quiet times.
You have tons of support here and friends who will talk you through any struggle. Be the best you can be for you and the rest will fall in place as God designs it.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!