Regretful and not sure how to proceed

[In_Shock]

FROM 25YEARS---"No way would I stay in the area knowing she was "with" OW b/c it's not merely disrespectful (but respect IS an ingredient in love and healthy r's) but it's unhealthy and almost deliberately cruel.

I'm tempted to say she's very angry at you or maybe just utterly clueless. But yeah, now that I think of it, it is cruel to do that"

It's that time of night. She's texting....and I'm dying inside. 25Years, I agree. She's angry at me. The disappointments I have given her over the years....the controlling, the not 'hearing', the trying too hard, the various and sundry other things from over a decade. I understand, but still she has got to know how badly this rips my heart out. Surely I don't deserve all this???


(i know the answer, I'm just doing a pity party as she sits there and smiles and giggles at these texts.......i can only IMAGINE..........Yes, 25Years -- she is 35 years old and acting like a teenager. The OW is 42 - which is even worse.

One good thing (i think?) is that she won't really admit what's up to me... that seems to indicate she's not ready to go wholly into this other R. Her mom also doesn't know....I'll post more about that later. I took something so I can sleep tonight.

I plan to GAL tomorrow by taking S4 to see the Smurfs. My DB coach suggested I try to crowd the OW out by planning more family time and inviting my wayward W. Making more family memories (25 you alluded to this also :)) Tomorrow I plan to invite her to go wiht us, but not make any difference in my plan whether she does or not. **I just want to keep her away from OW!** but at the same time, make good memories for my boy regardless. He's my light!!!!

Got to go to bed. This texting has me torn apart, and I simply cannot sit and watch this any more. As I always say, I'm not superwoman.