My H moved out yesterday. This feels surreal. I cannot believe this is my life right now. My youngest son is devastated. I have not been in communication with H. He left a voice mail today that said he had a miserable night and could not sleep. I know I cannot be in communication with him and am determined to follow through on going dark. I cannot get over the impact this will have on our family, and why he cannot see this is beyond me. H wanted youngest son, the only one at home now, to go shopping to pick out stuff for a room at his new place. My son wants nothing to do with this. Do I encourage him to work with his Dad? I don't want to. I want H to be miserable and lonely and feel isolated from "us". I know I need to have minimal contact with H now, and that somehow feels good. I am so glad my son who is home has a nice girlfriend. She has been a good comfort for him. I do not want our three boys to suffer from our ineptitide at a healthy relationship. They deserve more.
