How do you handle the XW that wants to be friends

[whitneypinch]

I guess we don't decide who we fall in love with.

My old therapist said to me once "your XW didn't abandon her family, she abandoned you".

Sadly, we are a culture of self absorbed people now (Me Generation). The media tells us all that we should be happy as individuals at all costs.

Eat, pray, love is the perfect example. I HATE that movie !
There are a few great points in that movie that most miss. In one scene an old wise women asks Julia's character "where is your husband? Julia's character says "I am divorced". The old woman asks her "so, are you happy now?"
Julia's character loks at her with contempt...obviously not happy now.

At the end of the movie Julia's character sees flashbacks of her previous husband and boyfriend. The husband is with another woman and they have a baby.

Julia's character goes off on the boat with her new boyfriend.......

I guess I missed the point of that movie... other than it saying just go out and do whatever you want....and you will be happy.

Have a great long weekend.