We all know when we have had enough. MLC takes a very long time to work through. The quick ones are rare.
You do not need to say goodbye though. Saying nothing can be more eloquent, unless the WAS makes some move towards you, as MHL and TGs wives have done.
I am sorry also you will not be posting. It can be useful even if only occasionally. Our reactions continue to take us by surprise even after a number of years.
What I am most sad about is your conviction that he never wanted the life you shared. that is MLC bs and it isn't doing you any good to think it was never OK. It can risk cutting you off from your memories.
I have been there, and it seems very bleak at times, but hang in there, life gets better for you, and your kids, I promise. It truly is their loss, and it is very very sad. You feel like the loser now in all of this, but actually it is him. I do not know a single person who was left who didn't make a good life for themselves. And I do not know a single person who left who did. What goes around comes around.
People who leave a loving spouse and family are really struggling with their issues. You do not feel it at present, but it is your spouse who is to be pitied. I wish I could have a coffee or a glass of wine and watch a movie, and just laugh about stuff. You sound like you need a little fun.
There are lots of us here post divorce, and frankly I do not feel like a loser. I really don't. Times when I did, pre- divorce, but after comes great liberation.
My kids friends' - mine are now all grown up, think my xh was a fool to leave. You can be a woman only a fool would leave, and there are fools out there. If you do not think you will ever have another romance, all I can say is do you ever read these boards? Those who are not with someone have usually chosen not to be.
