I often think this OW will get all of this and more now.
and that, my friend, is the most satisfying revenge in the world!! Trust me!
there is truth here. Although of course the truly best "revenge" is you living a life well lived...this helps too!
My aunt was deserted by her h for OW, decades ago while they lived in Europe.
She was devastated by so much deceit (but in truth she had often had a sick feeling about where he was or why he was so unreliable at times.)
So she arrived back in the US with 26$ in her pocket and 2 kids under the age of 4. She had no job and no place to live.
Her h married OW and raised OWs kids b/c OWs h had taken his own life after their divorce- and that made my uncle feel responsible for HER children, (but not his own).
My aunt made the difficult transition back into her career and having 2 kids so young. She bought a house after a few years and raised the kids They rarely saw their dad but when they diud, they had to fly overseas for weeks at a time, which was lousy b/c aunt had summers off...but the were their dad instead of home iwth her.... Her ex h's family was mortified at his behavior and thankfully they "showed up" when they could, from long distance.
Anyhow, 8 years passed and my aunt was doing pretty well. One night OW called my aunt...to ask if ex h was there with my aunt...cheating on OW!!
My aunt said later on, "OMG, he's still cheating!" And a huge weight lifted off her shoulders as she realized in a moment of clarity, that SHE was so much better off without him.
She had not had those familiar stomach aches and nervousness about her h and she didn't wonder where he was all the time...BUT OW DID...still.
Her ex h had not changed or improved for OW....
It must have taken everything in OW's box of nerves to call my aunt to ask where HER (OWs'0 h was "now"...
but my aunt felt relief. She really "got it" then.
She's remarried now btw, and much much happier than she ever would have been with her h. Just a fact.
She's a role model for me and changed my life b/c she is a happy contented generous woman.
She's a woman only a fool would leave. Her ex h was a fool. Once he told his mother (who loved my aunt) that
"if I'd known how painful this all would be, I wouldn't have done it."
what did he think would happen? Everyone goes away happy after a few days??
whatever. She IS better off and IF your h is this way for good, then so are you.
If the old h returns or who you thought he was, cross that bridge when you get to it. You are not alone.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
