this is a snip it from something i found about what a healthy relationship should contain.

Honesty & Trust
-Giving real compliments
-Discussing problems
-Using “I” messages to share feelings
-Asking for what we want, not expecting they owe it to us
-Admitting mistakes
-Asking (not accusing) each other about rumors

i think the last one here falls into what went wrong. i do this to with OM/baby daddy. i assume and accuse. frown