I've removed my sig because I'm done... you'll find my current thread in the Separated forum...
My W was and remains very (OCD and) controlling... If I can help you, as you are willing to curb your behaviours, I am thrilled...
As an example, my W wants 80/20 custody (as well as care and control of kids) because she doesn't "trust" me to get the kids to school on time...
Now, I won't say that I don't struggle sometimes in the mornings... but jeesh... does that make me a bad parent that somehow I my kids should only be with me 20% of their lives?
My W is in a job that takes her to out of province conferences at least 30 days a year... THOSE were the ONLY days that I was "in charge" of the kids, and even then... my W made sure that she had a friend or two and more recently her dad, checking up on me and the kids...
Everything we ever did as a family and the rest of the time she was around, everything was scheduled and done around her schedule and whims...
and OCD... oiy... I wouldn't even know where to begin... no one is ever able to live up to her "standard"... so... even when she delegated, it was never good enough and she'd have to do it herself (like cleaning, vacuuming, making beds, etc, etc, etc...)
