lol, Confused... You sound like you're doing fine for the most part...
Of course you'll have your moments of ups and downs and anxieties motivating you to DO SOMETHING...
You have some awesome advisers and advice above ^^^^ .....
Let me explain to you that I moved out of the familial home... I moved out of the bed...
It was not an easy decision, but it was the only decision... I was the only person... I could control... and my boundaries were, I would not be spoken down to, disrespected, and otherwise emotionally used and abused, any more...
So long as you can manage... stay in the marital bed and stay in the marital home... if you feel you need to, ask HIM to leave the bed or the home... but know that he will and has the right to make his own choices...
ONLY (like going dark) should you make the moves yourself if YOU need to... and IF you do it... do it FOR YOU...
You sound like you're doing fine for the most part...