[quote=Confused 2]Feeding a squirrel, that's so funny but I get it. I am finally getting the detachment thing. The reason for my question is, I am also a member for a few MLC sites. On these sites they suggest that I draw the line and ask him to leave our BR, don't really want to do that but don't want him to think that I'm a doormat either. I guess in the future if he says that he's moving out I should just say "if that's what you want to do I support your decision" sound good? Thanks for the links trust me I read as much as I can. Thanks [/quote IDK where you are reading that someone is suggesting ultimatums...but at DB land the only time you do that is when you are positive you are prepared for the answer you don't want to hear.
ANd since some progress is being made why would you do that anyhow?
Are you so miserable in your present situation that you must end it or push him to that end? It sounds more like punishing him or "teaching him a lesson" to me. My DB coach said "life teaches them lessons. It's not a spouses job to do that."
If you are too miserable to go on, I accept that. But you need to be ready for things to go downhill fast instead of progressing...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
