You are right, my distancing myself has been noticed by H. I think to that he has noticed there has been no attempt by me to control and when he does try to throw me the ball, like when our daughter wants to do something and she asks him he says what does your mom say. I gently say whatever decision you make I will back you up. He has always done that to me in the past and when I make the decision he then tells me how controlling I am. Not falling for that one anymore. Thank you for the advise. I like coming here better than the MLC sites because alot of people seem really bitter and most of the time it is depressing. Thanks
