first, what are you doing to work on you, since you are all you are in charge of?
second, if you are so sure she's riddled with guilt and that she regrets her choice, why doesn't she say she changed her mind or wants to give it another go?
Is it really just stubborn pride that keeps her on track for leaving,
or
Does she think you are making it so much about her being "wrong", that it would be impossible
for someone with a shred of self respect, to come crawling home?
I'm just asking but yes, i do get pick up a lot of judgement in your tone here. I know you are angry, but own that. It's okay to be angry.
Don't feign concern if it's just anger. Though showing her the anger is a bad idea, it's understandable if you feel it. Just vent here, and not on her.
Denying the anger doesn't teach you how to cope with it.
Did you ask her best friend about her "keeping things inside" b/c you were simply probing for more info? Like what?
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