Thank you both for the comments / suggestions. I do have a copy of the book heading my way (hopefully it will be here today) and I did read the 1st chapter. I have been to local recreation center to see what classes i might take that would get me into some immediate action while i plan out a little more 'long term' approach to 'doing for self'. It does seem like I am able to take actions for the right reasons now that will help me to grow and not try to make that some kind of "I'll show her what she is missing" type of thing. I back slide easily but at least I am aware of it now. I do have a great support group available and have been making much better use of that. This isn't a group of people that need to know (or ask) what the specifics are or take sides. This a 12 step deal that I have been a part of for a long time. For today: be kind to self, dress nicely, read a book, take a class, relax, go for a walk (the dog appreciates that) and try to avoid wallowing in the sad stuff. I believe those may be lofty goals but at least I have a plan. Enjoy the long weekend everyone! Mike
___________ Me: 49 W: 51 Together 24 (M 17) SSon 31 SDaughter 28 S 17 Bomb Dropped 8/12/2011 The rest remains to be seen.....still hopeful
___________ Me: 49 W: 51 Together 24 (M 17) SS31 SD 28 S 17 Bomb Dropped 8/12/2011 Still hopeful.
