Originally Posted By: Kaffe
Do you want the D? Then do it, why do you need her help?


I don't need her help. I was asking her for an uncontested D without lawyers. Just file the papers together.

That's it. If she didn't want to I was prepared to do it the hard way.

That may not have been clear in my posts here.

Plain and simple?

I don't want to sign up for more batchit crazy.

My W has PTSD from childhood sexual abuse.

I love her. I have compassion for her.

I cannot consciously choose to sign up for that f@cking ride again.

Can I see her and talk to her and take baby steps. Can I let her go with the greatest of empathy and compassion that I am capable of?

Yes. How we split (if we do) is just as important to me as how we make a new M.

I have no intention of adding to her burden if I can help it.

If anything I seek to ease it.

That may or may not be as her husband.

I don't need to know the answers to the questions I asked her but she does at some point.

I know what happens to you when you don't find those answers. Or you don't even know the questions.

So I at least gave her the question.

It is not for me.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am