Do what I can but still have questions 4

[soccerwife]

Went out to lunch and my fortune cookie said, "We don't know who we are until we see what we can do."

My talk with H didn't go exactly as I planned this morning. I wasn't able to smile or be happy for him going away the entire weekend, instead it came across as a guilt trip. Not at all what I wanted. Another mistake, another learning experience. It is way too early in this for me to be able to tell him when I am upset with something he is doing. I should have tabled that issue until I get his cooperation to work on things.

I did manage to make it away without pursuing an "I love you", asking him any specifics about the weekend, or loosing control of my emotions. So I was at least partially successful. Looking back on it, I kind of regret not sticking with my initial gut reaction to not say anything, but it obviously could have been much worse. At least now he knows what I am really feeling about him going away for the entire weekend.

I will just have to be extra happy and welcoming when he gets home. I will do as 25 suggested and have a great weekend w/ the kids and have them ready to greet dad when he gets home with stories and his favorite dinner. I won't even have to prep them, I am sure they are going to want his attention as soon as he walks through the door.