Jack posted in gritter's thread that the difference between MLC and WAS is time...
I'm starting to really understand that...
The DB techniques used for both are quite similar (if not exact)...
In my mind, and it's just an opinion is:
+ with a WAS... there's a sense of "hope" because the LBS can make changes in themselves and DO things that might help the WAS see the light and change direction from moving away to moving towards...
+ with MLC... not so much... MLC is categorized as it's own journey that really takes time... how much time depends on the MLCer... they might embrace the MLC's lessons and learn and course correct quickly... or they may deny their need for growth... maybe indefinitely...
More often than not... time is your friend... there's probably only key times, like in the last two stages of MLC, that you might have to worry that an action or words might be a deal breaker for the MLCer... until then, just live your own life... be patient...
If not MLC... then...???
If WAS... doing things that work... and being consistent... that it sticks... these are the things that will help you...
If MLC... trying to find things that work... well... IF they work at first... they're not likely to keep working, long term... the target keeps moving...
